I got a Hug from a Stranger Today

​I got a hug from a stranger today.

A group of boys were trying to raise money for their basketball team, they were selling ‘roses’ made out of palm tree leaves. When I told them I didnt have any cash on me, one of the boys asked “well how about a hug?” -me “a hug?” -boy says, with a smile, “yes a hug” I was hesitant at first, but said “sure.” 

At that moment when we wrapped our arms around eachother, he hugged me like a friend would. Thats when I realized how badly I actually needed a hug, even from a stranger. 

I will remember that moment for the rest of my life, so innocent and sweet. 

Success Quote

​Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success. 

Joyce Brothers

15 Self Awareness Strategies

15 Self Awareness Strategies:

1. Quit treating your feelings as good or bad 
2. Observe the ripple effect from your emotions 
3. Lean into your discomfort 
4. Feel your emotions physically 
5. Know who and what pushes your buttons 
6. Watch yourself like a hawk
7. Keep a journal about your emotions 
8. Dont be fooled by a bad mood 
9. Dont be fooled by a good mood, either
10. Stop and ask yourself why you do the things you do
11. Visit your values 
12. Check yourself
13. Spot your emotions in books, movies, and music
14. Seek feedback 
15. Get to know yourself under stress

(Page 63 Emotional Intelligence 2.o by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves)

Emotional Intelligence is so important for our society’s chance for growth in becoming a united human race instead of the continued separation and supporters of violence throughout all cultures. 

9.18.16 Rant with Questions

Its hilarious how people in my family post “family over everything💯” When in reality, all they do is talk shit on each other in this “family,” stab each other in the back, and smile to their faces.

Stop being a fake ass bitch, everyone knows the real you! 

So go ahead and continue your little show of how important family is to you, when your family are the first for you to FUCK over! Thats not how you treat family dumbasses. 

Note- this is regarding MORE than one person! 

Questions: 

1. Do you have any family members who claim to have your back, only to stab you in it, over and over again? 
2. What did you do in your situation?
3. Do you have any other advice regarding family problems?

Comment below with any feedback and dont forget to follow! http://VictoriaCrystalLee.wordpress.com

STOP this, for Happiness!

• Stop believing that you can never change
• Stop avoiding getting help when you need it 
• Stop assuming self work is a waste of time 
• Stop using passive-aggressive behaviors to manipulate others
• Stop self sabotaging behaviors that give you an excuse not to succeed
• Stop comparing self worth to your appearance 
• Stop hanging on to a victim mentality 
• Stop pointing blame at others without taking personal responsibility 
• Stop allowing your life to get cluttered and disorganized
• Stop treating yourself disrespectfully
• Stop treating your parents disrespectfully
• Stop assuming you know whats best for other people
• Stop avoiding a difficult conversation 
• Stop gossip 
• Stop letting fear rule you
• Stop procrastinating on important matters
• Stop trying to control other people 
• Stop taking out your inner pain on others
• Stop avoiding your inner pain and the root cause of it
• Stop pretending its really ok to be overweight
• Stop putting others and yourself down
• Stop neglecting your physical health
• Stop feeling guilty and shame
• Stop taking your partner for granted 
• Stop letting someone else define you
• Stop assuming you can’t or won’t make it
• Stop making excuses 
• Stop comparing yourself to others
• Stop putting things and objects over people and experiences 
• Stop harmful self critical thinking
• Stop people pleasing
• Stop taking things personally 
• Stop regretting your past 
• Stop overindulging on food, alcohol and drugs
• Stop spending money on what you want and save for what you need

Thank you for your time. I hope you take this in and truly think about what your habits are. You’re the only one that can control you! Be strong and remember you are not alone. Comment your thoughts. Id love to hear from you.

Victoria 

Demand the Respect You Deserve

“​The more chances you give someone the less respect they’ll have for you.

They’ll ignore the standards you’ve set because they know another chance will be given.

They’re not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you wont walk away.

They depend on your forgiveness and they are comfortable disrespecting you because you allow it.

You are worthy, take control of your life, and demand the respect you deserve.”

We all know someone like this! Whether it be a family member or friend, we all have people whom will continue to disrespect us. Sad but true! 

In my case, it’s family members. Im not going to go into detail about what they’ve done because frankly, Im embarrassed by them. 

The first lesson is dont let them bring you down to their level. We are stronger and smarter than they’ve ever anticipated. Being kind and forgiving does not make us weak. We have true character and are worthy of being respected. Dont let their petty bullshit phase you! They have no character, people with no character dont belong in your life.

Lesson two, let them go. For some, thats easier said than done. But whomever is treating you unfairly and disrespecting you is NOT worth your time and efforts. They’re not worth your respect. Spend that time and effort on people who actually respect you, treat you like a person, and dont look down on you with judgements and harsh criticism. 

If you have someone in your life who is toxic, they wont change, theyre only goal is to use you until you’re no longer useful, then move on to the next til they need you again. These people smile and lie to your face then turn against you as soon as you turn around. 

Comment below if you are having trouble letting a toxic person go and/or tell me your story about what obstacles you’ve overcome to rid yourself of those whom have no character nor know what true character is. 

Thank you for reading, have a wonderful rest of your day! 

How does your Inner Voice talk to you?

How does you Inner Voice talk to you? Is your inner voice encouraging, supportive and positive? If not, please keep reading!

We spend more time talking to ourselves than everyone we’ve spoken too in our lives combined. Shouldnt your inner voice be your best friend? Yes, makes sense to me. For example; If you have a best friend or family member who is hurting and in need of support, a true friend would drop everything to help comfort and support this person. If you’re someone who’d do this for a best friend or family member, then shouldnt your inner voice say the same to you during difficult times and need of support? Think about it. How our inner voice talks to us, effects our daily life and socializing skills. Our inner voice also determines if we have a good day or a bad day.

If you dont have any friends or family willing to drop everything to come comfort and support you, youre not where your supposed to be and need to seriously reevaluate your choice in friends and people you surround yourself with. Im serious and being honest, people are meant to work together and help eachother. Ive always been that true friend and family member. My heart is kind, caring and full of love to share. I am a personal Life Coach, please let me help you change how your inner voice talks to you. 

I have a PDF coming soon with statements and how to use the information to change how your inner voice speaks to you. I’ll be giving an announcement regarding the availability of my PDF for you soon! If you are interetested in a copy of my PDF please subscribe and/or comment below. 

Tell me how your inner voice talks do you. I’d love to see your thoughts on this subject! Looking forward to hearing from you. Have a wonderful rest of your day!

Stay tuned for “The Inner Voice” PDF coming soon!

Introduction

Hello Audience,

My name is Victoria and I welcome you to the story of my life. During my seemingly long 29 years, there has been an oddly large/remarkably high amount of occasions and situations occur along my path, which are, in my opinion, to be book worthy. You dont know this yet but let me start you in the adventures of my life…For now, lets put a pin in that (pin1).

Before we head out on this journey I want to give you some more infomation about myself and why I decided to create this blog. I feel as though I am very close to hitting rock bottom…. I would like to avoid the sudden empact of physical and emotional pain which occurs when one hits ‘rock bottom.’ I started doing a lot of research about possible solutions to my problems and during my search came across a blogging community. There, were several bloggers discussing topics about anything and everything.  It was really amazing to read the personal stories of other bloggers and feel that connection from afar. I thought about creating a blog in the past but never did get around to it… Looking back now, I wish I had, there’d probably be hundreds of my bizarre adventures available for the entertainment of readers, bloggers, and you!

I’d love to be part of a community with others who struggle, stress, and use their sweat and blood to work for what we want. I am comfortable enough to say Im far from perfect which is exactly where I think we all belong. I want to learn from more experienced bloggers as well as the strong men and women who fight for what they believe in.

Ive recently started reading more about world history, actually lets put a pin here too, lets not get side tracked (pin2).

I am currently living in South Carolina where I drive for Uber while looking for the right medical or management position to come along. I have a kind heart and strong passion to help people. In my family/friend circle, I am the one that will drop everything to help, because I’m reliable and if someone really needs me, they can count on me to stand beside them through their struggles.

As many of you know, life has taught us lessons in ways we wish it hadn’t. One of my goals is to help other individuals get through their hard times and difficult situations. I hope to give insight on life lessons Ive learned, help give support to those who feel as if they have no one, and be a coach to the younger generation on the importance of living a full life, taking risks, and finding love, happiness, health, and wealth.

I welcome anyone to comment, or send an email regarding a situation and/or personal experience, you’d like to discuss with me.

I look forward to getting to know more people and help any way I can. Dont be shy or stubborn, ask for help if you need it. I am here for you!

*throughout this blog I will put ‘pins’ in area I will circle back around to discuss, check back to see if a pin you like has been posted!

Thank you,

Victoria